Birth, marriage and
death are the most important events in the life-cycle of man. One of the
important duties of a householder is to give birth to a good offspring through
married life. Ironically, we can see around us many children or youth who are
physically handicapped, mentally retarded or with criminal tendencies,
psychological problems, drug addiction etc. According to medical science, such
handicaps are due to genetic factors. However, medical science has no solution to
prevent such congenital handicaps. On a deep analysis, we can see that genetic
problems are the result of a distorted life. Genetic problems, as we know, are
related to the lives of our ancestors. The Indian sages called these genetic
problems as pitru dosha, i.e. the demerit of ancestral souls. If we term
genetic problem as pitru dosha in the native tongue, our secular intelligentsia
would pounce upon us saying that all this is superstition.The physical and
psychological traits of parents are transferred to the children. Every human
cell or DNA is the aggregate of human experiences, values, thoughts and
actions of an individual carried through a long chain of existence. According
to Navajyotisree Karunakara Guru, pitru dosha is the
result of wrong values, thoughts and actions in the life of our ancestors, which
influence the life and destiny of offspring. Therefore, it becomes
necessary to be aware of the ancestral influences with which our souls and
families are affected. As we know, it cannot be known through laboratory
methods, but only through the special faculty of supramental vision of a
realized seer. Here lies the need for a source of authentic spiritual guidance
to know about the unknown factors that affect our life and destiny.
Next, let us take up the
issue of marriage. Marriage, as well all know, is for the purpose of begetting
progeny, for the continuity of family lineage. Nowadays, we see that there is
lot of disharmony in our homes, between husband and wife and between parents
and children. Many marriages break down with its unpleasant consequences
because these marriages take place driven by blind emotions. There is a general
ignorance about the sacred institution of marriage and family. Normally,
parents marry off their children viewing only the material aspects of the bride
and bridegroom such as physical attraction, education, wealth, family status,
etc. However, the soul harmony of the couple, the spiritual status of ancestral
souls, the background of family worship tradition, etc. are not considered.
A soul which is not
spiritually awakened could be a hindrance to a spiritually developed soul. Some
souls may be spiritually aligned in a different way that would not be in
harmony with the spiritual inclination of the other. For example, the husband
may be following a particular tradition, while the wife would be deeply devoted
to some other sect or way of worship. Such spiritual mismatch of couples would
lead to disharmony and lack of peace in married life.
Secondly, the parental
and ancestral background of the couple should be spiritually evaluated before
marriage. Ancestors with a wicked karmic background may cause the birth of
undesired progeny with similar wicked tendencies. The spiritual distortions and
karmic faults of ancestors might lead to the birth of children with genetic
disabilities. Therefore, a girl or boy should marry considering the similarity
of their ancestral background. However, caste background, physical beauty,
social status and wealth need not be seen for such a spiritual evaluation.
Thirdly, the spiritual
as well as karmic background of the couples should be compatible. The baggage
of good and bad karma and the amount of virtue or vice (punya and papa) in the soul decides the
success or failure of any individual in life. For a successful marriage, the
punya of both the souls should be in equilibrium. A boy with a tendency to
steal can be married to a girl with similar tendency; otherwise, it would cause
undesired problem in married life. The disharmony and severe problems faced by
families today are due to the ignorance about these factors and lack of
spiritual guidance. Some Hindu families approach astrologers to know about the
suitability of marriage. However, astrological consultation may not always give
you the complete truth. Therefore, it is imperative that we seek the guidance of
an all-knowing Guru and understand the sacred institution of family and
marriage in its spiritual perspective so that we would be better placed to
fulfill dharma, artha, kama and moksha - the value system guiding our social life.
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